MAD- :(

Ok...So I have a date- Aug. 16th....right? WRONG. I dont know, well really anyone on here- but I need a vent. Wednesday, my Dr.'s office calls me and tells me to pick a Tuesday or a Friday, any during the month- I call my Boss- and discuss when would be the best time to do this, and put in a request with HR....ITS REALLY a big deal for me to take off- finding coverage for yourself, when you work commissions only is REALLY hard! So basically I am training a new hire to cover for me, and its working well because she will still be on salary while I am out. So I am thinking this is meant to be! Not to mention, my work is not pleased about me taking this much time off! THEN..... I book a round trip, NON REFUNDABLE ( priceline) airline ticket down for my mother. My husband requests time off of work....... and for what.....??To recieve a phone call telling me that she overbooked that day, and I need to wait till the 28th. I am so mad I can spit nails. So I ASK, can you call the other 2 people that you scheduled for that day, and move them to another day.... WELL- She calls me back and says " they said it wasnt convienet for them to change!"!!! Like its for me!!?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!! I WORK a lot...but who cares, right??. Its been hard for me to do this whole process and they know that...I was told in the beggining that this would happen in July, or Aug 2nd..... so then I was ok with the 16th.. Now this?!?!? So it was left like this...... I know I cant do it on the 28th. So....She tells me that she will ask the Dr. if he will do 3 in one day on the 16th. So then I think..do I want to be 3rd? DO I want to be worked on when he isnt as sharp!??? Would that bother you? Maybe this isnt meant to be? I am so upset...... I just cant do it later in the month, IT DOSENT work out, and I dont have coverage at work after this window......and I am so angered that I just feel like finding another Dr........................ Or maybe, I shouldnt fight this. Maybe this is a sign that I shouldnt do it.

YOU FIGHT FOR THIS ! It is NOT your fault. I would insist they do the 3 surgeries on that day (and you tell them you are going to be the first one). Either way you tell them exactly what you told us. That you have spent hundreds of dollars in non-refundable tickets, work, insurance, etc. and remind them nicely that since it is not your fault they find a solution that will give you your surgery when they promised you in the first place. Stuff like this really ****** me off, can you tell? Then the folks expect you to bend over backward and just meekly lay down and take whatever they give you. You fight girl ! Kia

I am worried about being the 3rd!!! What if he gets tired???? Messes up due to fatigue! I am worried. I feel the same way you do... and I let them know all of that.......... who knows.... it is what it is. So is life I will fight.. but the only woman I am talking to... lied right to my face. I like her... but..... she told me to pick a date and call her back. Which I did. When I did that, she then told me that I would find out my pre op date soon! Well when all of this came up, she tells me that she never said that I could have the 16th..... Thats just not true! I had a lot of planning and hurdles to go through! I am so upset.... I dont know what to do Kia. Part of me, just wants to find a new Dr..... I cant deal with mistakes like this.... Thanks for your responce! You always are so welcoming Kia!

Michelle~ I know a lot of plans were made on your part, BUT, In your profile you question yourself as to the surgery so many times. I guess if it were me I would either find another doctor or take this as a sign from God above that you made all of these plans yourself and maybe nothing will come together until first you seek him or unless you change doctors. I am nearly four years out and still take blood pressure medicine as well as a few others and I am also a survivor of this surgery. I gladly wear 18's and I hold my head up high and am proud just to be alive. I DO wish you luck alongside your journey as you truly make your decision on your doctor because that is the most important decision that needs to be made here. Best of luck to you. Crece

Untill I seek him????? There is no seeking, I assure you. Of course I question myself about the surgery- who on earth wouldnt? Who wouldnt look in their kids eyes, and question if its worth loosing them??? I have no health problems what so ever ( yet!) , But I am mentally dying I cant proudlet wear my 18's and be ok with it..... I wish I could. Thanks for the wishes - Michelle

What time were you scheduled for originally? I agree, you need to let them know about the work, the tix, hubby etc...be nice but firm. If you were scheduled first then insist on being first. If not, then you had researched your doctor and felt confident enough with him before, right? The timing was not an issue before, so don't let it be now.. If you were not the last scheduled originally I would certainly not take the "it's not convenient for others".. I would press the issue...but if you were scheduled last before, it may be a case of last in/first out, and that's why YOU were chosen to be the one they cancelled... WHICH SUCKS!! I KNOW!!!!! You just march in there and tell them that you were supposed to have your date 2 days before Modean's birthday, and I am sure they will understand IMMEDIATELLY and resolve things RIGHT away! LOL (sorry...I can't help myself from finding a way to lighten things sometimes!) Good luck Michelle... I know this STINKS! Take care.. Tami

Orginially... Aug 2.... Then my doctor had to go out of town, then it was Aug. 16th.... As long as I am able to sit at my desk, and work half days by the first of the month, I am ok! But I cant pu**** up further- I just wouldnt work, for my work- They wouldnt understand. From the beggining timing was an issue, such an issue that I was willing to self pay- and they knew this. I have been very nice so far... I was to busy trying not to let her hear my crying on the phone. I will try the Birthday thing! THAT MIGHT WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This is your 2nd postponement?? OHHHHHHHHHHH NOOOO! Ok..totally different... Girl, put on your boxin' gloves and go give em' a fight! Nice is always more successful than ugly, but FIRM FIRM... You've already been shafted once, and now they are messing with your employment....Time to fight. Good luck hon.... Tami

I have told them from the beggining I was a self payer if insurance says no- It took my insurance company less than a week to say yes!!!! When I started this, I was told end of July- then Aug 2nd... now Aug 16th.. Now the 28th?? NOPE! I am putting both my feet down! I have no childcare, I loose the $$ for my airline tix's.. my husband has his request in.. its so complicated...and lord knows what happens with my job.. I am really good at what I do- but nobody is going to work for me, and rearrange their life, and sacrifice their $$$ ! Thats asking to much!....specially from a boss who thinks I am just fine the way I am...! Thanks for your kind words........ Your doing so great, I hope to join ya soon!