Increased anger, temper tantrums, aniety post op

Is anyone else going through these emotions after surgery or is it just me. I feel like a child that didn't get his/her way when I am going through these fits of anger and can't get a grip on life. I am so out of control some days and as of lately I can be so calm during the day but when nightfall hits watch out, everything that I thought may have passed just comes ragging out. I feel so sorry for my husband, I know that I am driving him slowly insane with all this. But the anger and tantrums just happen before I can stop it. I have made an appointment today with my doctor hoping and praying that there is medication that will help with this problem, although I am scared that with most anti-depressants that I will start to put on weight again. Any suggestions would be so appreciated. -Shariyun 287/198/155

Hi, thank god you posted!! I thought i had just become a super *itch since surgery!! i yell at the dog, cat, my husband!! i have points where the stupidest things set me off and then i am fine. i am making an appt. as well, i don't know what caused it, but if you hear anything please let me know!! thanks again stacy

YOU'RE NOT ALONE. I ALSO HAVE BAD HEADACHES & NO ENERGY. I'M MOODY ALL OF THE TIME. I WANT TO ASK MY DR. IF HE HAS SOME KIND OF HAPPY PILLS TO CALM MY NERVES. I NEED SOMETHING TO MAKE ME FEEL AS IF I JUST DON'T CARE. I'M SO UPTIGHT! GOOD LUCK TO YOU. I HOPE YOU FEEL BETTER.

You're not alone. I too have more feelings of anger and am really impatient with people. My PCP said he could give me a prescription for Celexa (?) which is basically an anti-depressant but I'm not sure if I want to take it. Besides that I am really bad at taking pills so it probably wouldn't help. I just try to take deep, calming breaths for now.

WOW, and I thought I was alone, as well as my mother saying I am acting like a spoiled brat. I tried really hard yesterday to say calm about everything and I still broke out crying twice over something minor. Oh well I know better days have to be coming. I did go talk to my PCP and she totally understood and prescribed me EFFEXOR XR. I am totally a baby when it comes to taking medicine, I almost have to be held down to do it, but I know that my marriage is almost in trouble if I don't at least attempt or give this a try. I go back next month to see if it is helping or need to increase the dose. I also go see a counselor on Thursday with my husband to try and talk through some of these issues. Although to be honest I have no clue what the issues are. Thanks for the support, I needed it. -Shari

Hi Shariyun, This seems to be more common than I thought, I thought it WAS just me. However, I have went to my PCP about it. He wanted me to have lab work done and test my hormones. In addition to what you are feeling, I also have had a major drop in wanting to be intimate with my hubby. (Which is very hard to understand because I am a very affectionate person) I told my doc I love my hubby more than anything but would like to maintain a best friend relationship... okay, we all know - THATS not gonna work!! And believe me the doc told me that too..LOL I go back on April 20th for my results and if I find out anything that may be helpful, I will definately post to share with everyone... I know it stinks to have these tantrums... I also take a narcotic since surgery... the bad part is, that is the only time I seem to be able to DEAL.... Keep your head up!!! Jess 258/194/

It seems to be common - and we really are dealing with a lot. I am lucky my son is understanding. I have days of crying jags, days of just outright anger, and then there are days o*******n. It's nearly schizo, isn't it? But the good news is this too, will pass. Things will level off for us. *Time* is the only really great healer!

yup; i know what you mean. I'm on Paxil and it seems to help. but with other stress in my life right now; I wonder if there should be more. I think this is normal; as before I would turn to chocolate and soda for calming releif. Now with those things gone; I need to find something to replace. it. and the support group is a nice place to vent. mark g.

Hello, I had surgery on Nov 25, 03. I have always been an emotional eater. I would eat when I got upset or had an argument with my husband or when work was going bad. I wondered what I would do when I couldn't use food to build up my injured ego or dull my emotions. Well, guess what? I would talk back and yell back and get upset and sometimes be nasty. It took me a while to figure out that I was using that as an outlet instead of food. I started concentrating on how good I felt and how wonderful life was because I was happier with myself. Each day and each week is a new discovery. I am discovering what I was missing when I was fat. I now find that these little things don't bother me as much because they are not as important as I was making them to be. This is the year of ME and I am a moth that is in a cocoon waiting to turn into a butterfly. Losing the weight is wonderful, but learning to be happy with myself is my journey. You must love yourself first. I hope this helps. PS, sometimes just talking with a friend or someone who is in your support group is better than taking drugs. Janet

Whew! I had no idea there would be so many of us going through this!! I'm 5-1/2 months out, 75 pounds down and a few weeks ago I felt like I was losing my mind! I homeschool my daughter who has special needs so this temper was simply not acceptable. I talked to my PCP and she prescribed Lexapro. It's wonderful!!! It doesn't make me feel sluggish or anything, and I'm still losing weight. All it's done is let me become myself again. I feel balanced and in control. Little things no longer set me off and I enjoy life again. It's like a miracle! I only wish I'd done it sooner. It is SO worth it! Best of luck, all. I do know how you feel.