Hi Sherry, Hang in there and keep your heart strong. At least you know the problem now and can face it head on with your husband. I am very happy he decided to go to rehab. Hopefully, he can get straight and you can decide where to go from this point on. I'll be praying for you and your family. You're right, God will see you through this. Keep the faith and know that we are here supporting you. Lori 293/197/135

Ms Sherry... {{{{hugs}}}} I wondered where you went. I am sorry you have to go through this. But at least now you can say that you are on the upside of it all. Things will get better now that your hubby has admitted to himself that he has a problem and is doing something about it. I pray that things will continue to improve for you and your family. Remember we are here for you no matter what. Not just for weightloss support. Take care sweetie, Lori

So i guess it looks like i'm pretty normal. Thanks for your input!! it really helps to see where other are. D

Aww, JC .. No one here is going to flame you..You are doing a good job of that yourself. Promise me you will stop looking down upon all your success and continue to see the positives roads you have chosen, ok? No one knows better than me, what its like being a single mom. I divorced my X when my son was 4- so at your stage- I had relocated , established my son in school, moved again, during the first month he was in school (long story) and stayed put for the first 6yrs. His Dad opted out of his life- so I pretty much raised him myself. That means teaching him sports, and activities, and reading, etc, and sacrificing a lot of my personal time for him. I was home raising a man, while many of my friends were out dating and hooking up. I just learned to cultivate a different network of friends. But you know what? It seems like its never ending and that there is no end in sight- but you do have to make time for yourself- and the four hours you spent gardening ,Im sure did wonders for your spirit. I love gardening. My son is now 21, and believe me, not a DAY goes by, when I wish he was back in grammar school, and I could do it all again. Its more fleeting than you think and you will be able to enjoy MORE things with Rolen, than I did with Jason- as my weight fluctuated..and back then- in the 90s- was taking him to the gym with me, and leaving him with their day care.. One thing he does need to do- is develop social skills. So you should arrange play dates for him, and use THAT time for yourself and not food shopping or house work- that you can always do with him in the house. Giving yourself that break for 1-2 hours, is so beneficial and rejuvenating. The other option, and it may not be yours, is joining a local gym, maybe a 3 day plan. Bally's has a plan that lets you join, just for that club and its like $20 a month, but it is a 3 yr contract. But don't let that worry you- because 3 yrs from now you will look back and wonder where the time went- but your fitness and health will take you places you never went before. Trust me, it is so worth it to you. SO, don't be so hard on yourself, I have that tendency too. Just remember, when you push hard, life pushes back 2x harder, but with your health and body and mind, prepared, you can handle it all, and enjoy it all, especially being Mom. Kids love being outside- take him for walks, the fresh air knocks them out. Go to a local pool on the weekends. You may not be exercising at YOUR level- but you are building your flexibility and having fun, and thats a good end result. I went on a rollercoaster last week- and it was the first since I was like 10, and my son was with me. It was exhilarating. My son & I had so much fun we did it again right away. I forgot having living in the moment fun. So you have BOTH to look forward to - your own growth and as your son grows- so will you evolve- and because of surgery- you will do a great job keeping up. I will tell you- with this warm weather- drink more fluids- or have more ice pops or s/f ice cream- get those fluids in. Second- and Im still working on this- try to get in MORE protein. I try to get in 60-100 gms everyday. Im not always successfull, but I figure, as along as I keep swinging for it, I'll get there, and what Im taking in- won't hurt, Right? so MORE is always good, and I think the longer we are out- the more we have to remind ourselves, protein keeps us healthy, everything else is second. The rules we adopt in this first 16/18mos- is what sets our tone for life- so remember you are building your future with the steps you take today. So Chin up girl and contact me anytime you feel you need it. AND remember, today is the first page of a new chapter in your life. You have the power to change at anytime. The rest is all unwritten. Hugs Donna

Please don't flame me, I can't find the time to exercise with my bizzy schedule. For the ones who don't know my story I'm a single mom and I work 10 hours a day, 6 days a week. Thats most of the time, some days I only work 8 hours like normal people do. OK back to the exericise problem. After I pick up my son from my mothers house we come home and the first thing I do is start preparing dinner for him. After dinner we work on writing his name, are spelling 3 letter words. He's about to start kindergarden in 2 weeks and we have to be really for big boy school that's what he calls it. So after that it's time to give him a bath and get him really for bed. I hope you guys don't think I'm trying to make up excusess but I really can't find the time. And I know it's not your problem but I just needed someone to tell. I'm not looking for sympathy I just wanted to see if anyone understands were I'm coming from. I worked in my back yard after work today and I fill alittle bad because I left my son over my mothers house 2 hours longer than I usually do so I could clean up the yard. That was my work out for today. I've tried riding my exercise bike but I can't do it every day because I really need to spin time with him. I not going to stop trying to exercise alittle but everyday I don't see that happening. My weight loss has slow down and it seems like I can eat alittle more these days. And yes I'm guilty of not drink enough water. If you flame me please don't be to hard on me just remember that I'm trying to be the best mother I can be for my son (Rolen). This is why I did the surgery this time is because I wanted to be around to see my son grow up. I'm sorry for the long post. Take care Carolyn 284/188/190/ want to be 160ished or 150ished.